PRESENTER:"Dear sir. I changed myself greatly, thanks to your directions to the good morality. However, I realized that sometimes, when I'm taken unawares, I'm disturbed about not being able to respond with good words as I'd want to. How can I improve myself to talk to Muslims whom I love and value very deeply with the good words as Allah commands?"

ADNAN OKTAR: This is one of the most vital matters in human life. For example, I always act by thinking when I talk to you. I pay attention to use words that has a positive influence over you, to avoid any words that could offend you, and even I pay attention to this over my mimics.  A person has to use his conscience continuously throughout the time that he is awake. For example, when he wakes up, let's say they wake him up for prayer in the morning, if he gets up acting like he doesn't have the energy or the desire to do so, this would be an insult against prayer, Allah and the Book. So you don't show coyness against the person waking you up. It would have an aberrant meaning. Or for example, when you are paying a compliment, if there is a possibility that the word used may have a second meaning, one should think about that too. These have to be thought through very rapidly. For example, sometimes a word may trouble someone, because Allah says that human beings are created as weak. People can be easily offended. So there can be a thought that there is a bad meaning behind a word comfortably pronounced. One can look for a bad implication. Therefore, words should be told selectly and with their plain, sincere and complete meanings. Mimics are also very important when words are told. So for example, someone says; "Come for dinner". The person can say this in a wrangling manner or in a conciliatory manner or in the middle. The conscientious action is to tell it in a conciliatory manner. That means in a conciliatory voice and with a conciliatory expression on the face. So speech has to be backed up with the tone of the voice and facial expressions. He says "how are you", but uses a tone like a gangster, so he just says "how are you" in such a way that the other person gets chills all over, right? The other gets scared, his feet and legs feel ran down. But someone else asks "how are you", and his look and voice appeals to him. Therefore the man may say "what did I do, my attitude is quite normal". It is not normal, there is no such normal behavior.