ADNAN OKTAR: Now if a person does not love a woman for Allah, not feel affection towards her for Allah or see her as a manifestation of Allah, he sees her as a piece of flesh and bones, or a machine that washes the dishes, cooks the dinner, cleans the house, irons the clothes and that takes care of his needs from time to time, then this means that he does not appreciate her. He does not respect her. Therefore, he would have a sort of rage in him. He sees her as a pile of flesh and a creature who consumes all the time. A woman knows very well whether she is loved or not. She especially knows when she is not loved sincerely. When she realizes this of course, she feels anger. There forms a mutual hatred. He does not see her as a manifestation of Allah. And she does not see him as a manifestation of Allah. He sees her as a species of monkey that evolved from other monkeys, because he believes in the theory of evolution. She sees him as an evolved species of monkey as well. Sometimes the man finds the marriage of two monkeys very illogical, according to his mind. I am only saying this for some people. And he feels anger for that monkey in him. Therefore, he does not have any feelings of fidelity, loyalty, protection, compassion; and he also sees her helplessness. He gets up one morning and looks at her and her helplessness is there to see. He sees her when she is sleepless. He sees her when she has the cold or the flu. Or he sees her when she gives birth. He feels an intolerable anger inside him. First he separates the houses. He cannot even stand seeing her face like she is some kind of a creature.

He hates her so much like she is not human but some creature. He does not want to even see her face. How could this be? She married you to earn the good pleasure of Allah. She submitted herself to you, she became your sister in this world and in the Hereafter. She is like your child, isn't she? She is a part of you, your bone and flesh. How could you break up with her? He throws her to the street. He does not even know where she goes or what she does. What is she going to eat or drink? What if something happens to her? What will happen? How could a person spare her, how could one throw her to the streets? When there is no fear of Allah and when there is no love of Allah, such things can happen. Sometimes they happen for other reasons. But in general, this is the case for the majority. Then it is not possible to approach with love and mercy. They are not patient. They do not show any willpower or mind. She drops innuendos at him and he drops innuendos at her. There are divorce proposals every day. Divorce is the last word a person could say. They begin talking about divorce only 15 days after getting married. How could someone say that word? How terrifying! It is like you murder someone. What does it mean to throw her on the street? This is so for me. I do not know how it is for someone else but it is like this for me.  This is a very painful thing. There is the materialist, Darwinist, atheistic education at the root of this.

People who are away from compassion and mercy form in the end. I am not talking about all of them but only for some. Therefore, they talk about homo-economicus and use fancy words... Whatever that means.. Like it is an animal dependent on the economy- may Allah forbid- Right? Am I telling the truths?

OKTAR BABUNA:Astagfirullah.

ADNAN OKTAR:Insha'Allah. I am trying to avoid saying fancy words, but what can I do?.. They feel love depending on the economy, depending on the matter, for instance, she will get married. A man proposes and she says, "Yes. But what do you do for a living?" The man says, "I am working here. I have such a business place." She asks, "How much income does that bring?" Very much. Suddenly there are hearts appearing over her head. She sees the car, it is a fancy car, like a Jaguar, BMW or whatever. That turns into an uncontrollable love all of a sudden. She says that she is shocked like shocked with electricity and she is over her head and amazed, and that she is thinking about him day and night and cannot get him out of her head. She tells him that she sees some qualities in him.. Like for example.. She is in the condition of a person who discovers him for the first time. And that fool with the excitement of being discovered for the first time, says, "A woman discovers me for the first time in my life". He asks, "How did you recognize me?" She says, "You are great." She says, "I am seeing this characteristic for the first time. I am seeing this for the first time and that for the first time." He believes them all like a fool. But it is only to capture him.

Women are very smart. She follows a rational policy. She understands his weakness. She determines his delicate points first. She determines his weak points. She determines the points to touch that would be effective. Then she begins to follow an appropriate and consistent strategy to surround her little catch. Then he signs the marriage agreement with his new hair cut and people applauding. But still he thinks that he is marrying a monkey. She seems beautiful to him with that first inner sexual lust. After his desire is satisfied, because the power of his desire is gone, his animalistic look begins to step in.  He says, "I now see you more clearly." Whereas then you were seeing her like an animal and now you are seeing  her like an animal as well. That is only because one part of that animal side is gone, right? You look like an animal with that animalistic mind of yours. There becomes a great anger. For instance, she wakes up in the morning after their first night and she feels great anger. She says, "What did I do?" She says, "We decided too early." Early but they stay engaged for 3 years. What kind of deciding too early is that? It begins from there. The woman resists with all her power not to have any financial loss. But she of course finds a way. She goes and shows him the pictures of him being with another woman. He says, "It happened by mistake. How did you get these pictures?"

He thinks that he got caught of course. But she is playing a special game or something like that. For instance, he does not give her money, swears at her, insults her. That poor woman cannot resist any longer, she surrenders and divorces him. I am talking about special cases; I acquit them all. Incidents like these. All of these can be analyzed one by one. These are all because of being away from religion, away from love of Allah and not being able to love with love of Allah. If a person feels love as a manifestation of Allah, with the love of Allah; then there is a second power in the soul of a person. A deep power. It does not collapse with desire and all. It does not collapse with sexual satisfaction and all. You love her even more, with more love and it is a special power. This steps in. But when it is not there, he cannot love since he has no spiritual strength and he finds it irritating. Because at the end of the day; she is a creature made up of flesh and bones. He says, "What did I do? Am I going to give all my youth to her?" Women have the same logic; but there are cases just the opposite. In summary, loving for Allah is the greatest beauty of the whole world. Allah created us like this. Allah created us in a way that we love with passion for Allah and as a manifestation of Allah. When we do not do this, we would certainly experience troubles. We would live the pain of lovelessness and egoism in the sharpest way. May Allah forbid. Therefore, it is vital to avoid the materialistic mind and to love with love of the Qur'an, love of Allah and as a manifestation of Allah. Insha'Allah.

OKTAR BABUNA: Yes Master Insha'Allah.

ADNAN OKTAR: Insha'Allah