ADNAN OKTAR:And that is a gift of Darwinism to the world. They developed an extremely egoist and selfish structure. What is the meaning of living with someone for money? What is the function of love here? Where is love here? Love is based utterly on Allah's good pleasure, as a manifestation of Allah. And it should be based on compassion and mercy. That is to say, one does not marry for other people to talk about, for show-off. That is an immaculate person who is entrusted to you. And in the Hereafter she is your sister, your spouse. And in this world, she is your sister and spouse. And he is responsible for protecting her, watching over her like his own child, mother. That is because woman is a great blessing. She is a manifestation of Allah's name of ar-Rahman and ar-Rahim, a being of great beauty. One needs to care for her as if caring for a flower. Women are very delicate beings. They cannot resist sleeplessness, exhaustion, right? They cannot resist sadness, they fade away very quickly. For this reason one needs to show meticulous care. If a woman is cared well, shown great care, she remains like a live flower, she becomes very beautiful, very healthy. And they in no way grow old, wither, remain as a quite beautiful being. But women quickly feel sorry for a minor issue, they need to be cared very much. One needs to employ wisdom in the true sense of the word. Great attention should be paid to her sleep, exercise and diet.. For instance putting women in hard works would be a great cruelty. It is unacceptable. Such works, those hard works are the works of men. Women should work in the kind of jobs that will open their hearts, make them feel at ease and will not harm their spiritual and physical well-being. What a woman likes most, like every human being, is love, but a sincere love. Those superficial compliments beginning with "my dear" etc. make women very angry. For instance a man comes and starts to kiss the woman from her back. This time the woman feels like a weasel bothering her. The woman feels disgust. This makes her very angry, right? She gets furious. But what a pitiful situation that they have to remain silent towards those disgusting creatures for money.                    

PRESENTER: In that case those people consider their marriages as a kind of business.

ADNAN OKTAR: Of course, Allah forbid. A marriage lacking love and spirit and which is not based on love, profound affection is very disgusting. This is the subject I have just told. This is what I'm telling. That suffering those women are subjected to. The men talking right in front of her nose; this makes the woman feel great disgust but she cannot show it. His breath, style of talking, touch disgusts her and makes her angry. But she can't tell this. If she loves for Allah, the woman derives profound pleasure. Then she takes pleasure from being with her spouse, from everything. That is because she would then consider everything as a manifestation of Allah, including his touch and his embracing. If he is lawful to her, being near to him, she considers him as a manifestation of Allah and this fully satisfies her spirit. Then the woman can benefit from profundity. Otherwise the woman wants to look as if she is in love and of course this is something bitter; the poor woman stiffens and remains so. The man acts like an artist; he thinks he has great impression with his look number 2 and look number 3. He behaves in a larrikin way, the woman gets even more angry. Such types of men assume that they are very smart while they think women are very unwise and naive. But because women are very intelligent they almost play with them like puppies. Men, on the other hand, assume that they are the ones who play with women like puppies. That is, they are so unintelligent. And they cannot become aware of this until the end of their lives. But what is the need for such pain; a woman would eat her fill with a single dish. It is so unwise of her to leave herself under the sway of an inferior man and become subjected to his cruelty.

PRESENTER: This is so painful, yes. May be this is out of being desperate, we cannot know their family lives. But it is indeed a bad thing.

ADNAN OKTAR: Why shouldn't a woman find this? She would find a dish of food no matter what. If she holds on to Allah with love, Allah opens a way for her. Allah would provide her with food, clothes and all sorts of opportunities. She should trust in Allah very much. Otherwise it is very horrible to live with a man like a badger, to be subjected to his cruelty day and night. To be humiliated by him; this is something very disgusting, it is a very bad thing. At that point she will take refuge in Allah. Surely the families should also protect such people and not let them be oppressed. They, for instance, say to their young girls, to kids, "Go and find a husband for yourself." So, how can that kid find someone, how can she do that? How can this be acceptable? That is a great cruelty.. "You have grown old, you are a big girl now. Go and find a job for yourself. Go and find husband." This is something very humiliating. The fact is however, if a person has a daughter, he does it on the condition for caring for her for a lifetime. That is to say, the child is not obliged to go. This holds true for animals; for bears, for tigers.. After a while the animal throws its cub out and does not let it approach once again. This is a feature peculiar to animals. A human being does not act like that. Especially if a girl demands it, she may not leave her parents for a life time. Compulsion is a great cruelty.

OKTAR BABUNA: Furthermore she is subjected to maltreatment. As you have said, she takes refuge in her parent's house but they send her back saying, "He is your husband; he can do it anyway."

ADNAN OKTAR: Of course, in such a case, Allah forbid, there are greater disgraces. They compel young girls to incest. Children also endure them. It is a pity, sin. They have to put their trust in Allah and run away. There are good people who will protect and watch over them; there may be pure families. They can go and take refuge in their relatives. They can grant a petition to the state and take refuge in their relatives. Or they attempt to lead the kids astray. They should never accept such things. Incest relationship is never accepted. One does not look at the face of such a father again. That is to say, it is not pardoned. The man goes and asks forgiveness. There is no pardon for it; it is over. If you have done it for once, then the issue is over. It is for a lifetime then. Incest relationship has no explanation. That means, the man is a psychopath. No contact can be established with him again. What they need to do there is to know to take refuge in Allah well. Allah absolutely protects. They need to trust in Allah and, of course, they will encounter hardships, then they need to be patient, they need to know how to be patient. But families need to greatly stand for their children, for their daughters. They say, "Go and find a husband, go and find yourself a job." How will that poor kid find that job, is it easy? She may not find, that is a very hard thing.

PRESENTER: It is also hard to find a spouse.

ADNAN OKTAR: Of course, how will the child find a spouse? Is it done upon order? Is this buying a plastic doll? Where will she find that? There needs to be a sensible, stable and coherent person with moral perfection and fear of Allah. Such a person is hard to find. It is hard for a young girl to find such a person. Consequently they naturally feel uncertain. She goes and gets married; she is either beaten, insulted, damned or dismissed. Such children grow old in a very short while. They lose their hair and become unrecognizable. For instance they give their daughters in marriage at an age of 19-20; at 25-27, they grow old and become miserable. Isn't it a pity, a sin.. Under all circumstances families need to protect them, keep them in their homes until Allah opens a good way for them and provides them a good opportunity and they should not force theminsha'Allah.