PRESENTER 1:Okay, we have talked about women who had given themselves to our Prophet (saas). What were their differences from the wives of our Prophet (saas)? Do they also become his wives? 

ADNAN OKTAR:They were the same of course, the exact same, of course, I mean they were his wedded wives. Insha'Allah. For instance there are nuns, as you know they never get married, these young nuns in the monasteries. You do know that, right? They do not get married. Do you know the reason why they do not get married?

PRESENTER 1:To marry Prophet Jesus(pbuh) in the Heaven? 

ADNAN OKTAR:No, they already are giving themselves to the Prophet Jesus(pbuh) here. I mean they accept themselves to be his wives. I mean they wed themselves to the Prophet Jesus(pbuh) in order to be with him in the Heaven. For instance this is an immense love for the Prophet(pbuh), I mean this is a giant event. Of course this is according to their belief. I mean there is no such thing in our belief. There is no such thing, no such belief in our religion but in any case this is a sign showing how much they love the Prophet Jesus(pbuh) insha'Allah.  We do understand from the Qur'an that the point of opinion for a Muslim woman should also be like that. Allah does not grant happiness when acted in the contrary and all the world is witness to that.  I mean when one is getting married, the approval and the mercy of Allah should definitely be sought. The fear of Allah should be candidly sought.  They can't be happy because they do not search for that.  Or else why would a person cease to care for the one he finds the Approval of Allah with? Why would he be uncomfortable?  How would he ever feel the need to be divorced?  This can only be possible if that person looses the fear of Allah, if that person ceases to behave in accordance with the approval of Allah. So long as she continues to feel that fear of Allah, so long as she continues to behave in accordance with the approval of Allah it is not possible for a Muslim to cease to care for that woman.  For instance a woman might give birth to a child and that might affect the beauty of her body. They generally get divorced after the birth. That is quiet common.  I mean since the women physically get deformed, they get in a new kind of search.  Now if you had married such a woman for the approval of Allah, if you had married her because you have found the approval of Allah in her and if you had seen her as a Muslim, how would you ever be able to let go of her? Is that even possible? I mean if she gets uglier that would increase the compassion one would feel for her. For instance if she becomes disabled somehow, the love one feels for her would increase even further. The feeling of protection towards her would increase even further.  How would you ever cease to care for her? I mean if one does that, it would crush his bones. Right? His soul would be shattered with pain. He should not be able to endure such a thing. Such a thing would cause a big depression in one's conscience. But that person feels so much at ease. For instance a man gets cancer, I see that very frequently on the television. They have been married with a very big splendiferous wedding receptions, and were very excited. When her/his spouse gets cancer, he/she immediately gets divorced.  Whereas cancer is a very frequently seen type of disease. And you already accept that when you first get married. I mean a person's spouse might have a traffic accident, one might become disabled or even die, that person might get cancer or ulcer. Anything can happen. I mean, see what would marrying for physical attributes bring to one, what would marrying according to one's outlook bring with it.  

PRESENTER 1:When the approval of Allah is taken as a goal, that person's eye would not even notice such things.  

ADNAN OKTAR:Of course, why would such a thing happen if one makes the approval of Allah his aim? For instance women generally get deformed a bit earlier than men. For instance in his 40's a man might be more youthful but in general a woman in her 40 would be more deformed, by their nature, somehow this is so in the Wisdom of Allah.   For instance, that woman's getting older might be enough for him to divorce her. I mean they either live in a distance, live apart, not even able to stand each other. He can't even stand her presence in the house. He doesn't even want to see her. Most of them live separately. I mean a person should feel pity.  I mean you should be feeling compassion for her… For 30 years, 40 years, that person had taken great pains with you for all those 30 years and in the end she grew old. Of course she would be deformed, this would increase one's love, one's affection for that person in folds. It increases because of her loyalty, right? Because of her compassion because of her moral, because of her good nature, his love would increase in folds. But for them her physical attributes or the loss of his financial strength would be enough. For instance this becomes a problem in issues concerning men. For instance a man owns a factory or something. His factory gets bankrupt, all his possessions go, they come to sequestrate his house, the house and the car all go. That person who has been talking about love, affection suddenly begins to say "somehow Allah had taken away the love from my heart".  I mean that person starts saying things that might mean these. And such things are said basing on religion as well or one starts to look for a mistake. For instance she says that she feels he is cheating. I mean she is about to decide on this, so she starts seeking for an excuse. 

PRESENTER 2:Actually, the love she feels is not for that person but for the things he possesses. 

ADNAN OKTAR:Of course, it is for the money and the assets. That is the case in many people, but they do not realize.  For instance she looks at the car for once, the 50% of the first love starts, she sees the house, it becomes 70 percent, and when it comes to the physical appearance, if he does not have a bodily disability then that is what she actually looks for anyway.  If he is a nice enough looking, than the matter is done and over with. If he had mentioned Allah's name for several times, then she would believe in his being a Muslim and the matter is done with.  I know many women who fear Allah, married to men who have no relation with religion and living happily. And they feel no discomfort in their conscience. 

PRESENTER 2: That is because their criteria are wrong, right? 

ADNAN OKTAR: The criterion is the Qur'an and acting according to the Qur'an. 

PRESENTER 2: Going after possessions, assets and goods when it should have been the Approval of Allah one searches. 

ADNAN OKTAR: See that such a deviation, such a drift also happens with even the wives of the Prophet(saas).  See what does Allah make His Messenger, our Prophet(saas) say to them, that is by revelation: " If you desire the life of the world and its finery, come and I will give you all you need and release you with kindness." When the Prophet(saas) says this to a person, to a woman, what would be of that person from that on? I mean that is a very big catastrophy for that person in this world. I mean would it be possible for one who is not with him in this world, to be with him in the Hereafter? If the Prophet is divorcing her and he is a person acting on Allah's revelation. And this is a verse of the Qur'an, this is what Allah says, Allah makes him say this through revelation. See: "‘If you desire the life of the world and its finery, come and I will give you all you need and release you with kindness." That means that they have not been able to find some of the alluring worthly finery in the Prophet(saas). For instance, let us assume that they want him to be at home night and day. The Prophet(saas) is continously preaching the word, he is on a constant struggle, contantly striving in the path of Allah. Or may be she just wants to have fun and cannot find that according to her own thinking. Consequently they have caused some distress. And they tire the Prophet (saas) and cause him discomfort by disturbing him. And our Prophet(saas) do not say anything, our Prophet(saas) is a very shy person. You know that don't you? He is very shy, I mean he gets all blushed but cannot say. In a verse Allah says: "concealing something in yourself which Allah wished to bring to light." In the verse Allah says" Allah will bring it to light". He conceals things in himself when something happens, for instance when someone does something impertinent, he does not say it, he feels shy. Allah says that through revelation, when they have a wierd act or an attitude, when they do something improper. For instance they raise their voices when talking to our Prophet (saas), Allah warns them through revelation. Our prophet does not tell it himself because he is shy. 

For instance, they come to his home, and that is when they have separated the wives of the Prophet by a curtain, as you know. They eat, they do not leave, Allah says "leave after you eat". They do love the Prophet (saas) but they put him in an uncomfortable situation. The Prophet(saas) is a person who is always out in preaching and the means of his house is limited anyway.  That means, there are sometimes people who fail to think about him profoundly so that Allah warns them but the Prophet(saas) does not say anything. But to a person as gentle as that, we understand that they spiritually tire him while they should have been treating him with kindness and love and never make him uncomfortable.  And we understand that they do so by acting in the psychology of a woman, in the philosophy of a woman. The women helping each other, women helping each other against the Prophet(saas) , how is this acceptable?  Right? A person has to act by the truth, act by what is right and not form an alliance against the one she loves. And one does not become anyone else's confidant, she has to be her spouse's confidant, she has to be the Prophet(saas)'s confidant. Consequently, under no condition she should have said something he told her as a secret to anyone else, but they can do that. See that this is the reason why Allah does not give peace to the people in this world. 50% divorce rate is an awfully high rate. It has reached a very high rate. Supposedly those people acting like that, consider themselves to be wise.  I do consider all of them free of this but of course some do have some reasons. I am not saying that every person getting a divorce does so with a wrong conception, of course they might know their own reasons. But I mean the ones I have just talked about. Allah would take away the happiness of anyone who does not have good intentions. I mean He makes them uncomfortable at dinners, Allah causes them pain at their school, causes them pain while they are in bed. That is not only valid for the marriage. This is what one should be considering while choosing their school, choosing their profession.  Allah's approval in the highest level possible should be sought for in everything.